Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”.You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? .” Or we look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing.Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know. I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?.”  In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  . One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”.

Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got  10 more reasons to envy them.

We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

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