If you are trying to comfort someone who is in pain due to the loss of a loved one then you need to read this article.

Encouraging words and tips may seem useless to someone who is hurting deeply. In most cases when youtry and use humor such as funny encouraging words to lighten up the mood the person who is in pain may seem to reject them while continuing to indulge in the pain.

Irrespective of how the person seems to be dealing with the situation, positive speaking is a much needed healing component. Relaying such words is more like putting a seed into the soil. It can take weeks for you to see the seeds germinating but through constant watering and a tod of sympathy and tolerance the seed does grow.

Likewise when you try to help someone get through a bad situation, never stop simply because you are not getting the reaction you expect. Keep sharing your Christian words of encouragement if you can and don’t even think about giving up.

If wound is new, then you really need to hand in there and give it your best shot. You just need to understand that and be patient. Also, you need to keep in mind that people grieve in different ways and the time taken varies – depending on the occurrence or the nature of the grieving person.

I have a friend who lost a loved one and spent two years still mourning and crying everyday before going to bed. It turned out everything we kept saying to him over the years – in terms of encouragement, helped him to heal eventually. Truth is, I had started to give up on him and when he told me how I had helped I was really pleased.

So if you feel like it is useless to keep writing an encouragement letter to a friend or whoever it is you are trying to comforst remember that they are helping the person who is in pain to live through each day. Make a decision today to keep at it until you know for a fact that your friend in need is over what ever distress and heart ache – this will help you feel valuable and it will do you some good too.