Many questions for your personal development…

Sometimes, it’s best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there a special type of group you’re trying to impress? Once you can answer most of the natural questions that ask why you want what you are striving for, then you are ready to go further in your quest of personal development in becoming popular.

Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date.  See the mind map I created to go with this article.

By building yourself a mission statement, you will then have your own personal plan to keep you on track and answerable to yourself. It’s a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.

Be Comfortable and Confident

One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence~Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence}. It’s true, and often stubbornly accepted, that the more satisfied you become with who you are and the feelings that might surround you, the easier it is to make friends.

Your Style and Look

Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one’s self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These simple changes can give you a real confidence boost, but ensure it is a look that best represents who you are.

Dress to Impress. So, dress like an apple

I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I wondered to my self several years later, if we’ve discovered this revolutionary information, why don’t we utilize it? Why do we refuse to put it into action? These questions can only be answered honestly by you and perhaps comes down to self discipline. The healthier we are, the better we feel. If you feel great, chances are you will look great too. people are attracted to those who look healthy. Having a shower every day will help. Need I mention deodorant, a comb through the hair, and a toothbrush to the teeth will aid in anyone’s quest for popularity? Guess I just did that.

Be Passionate

Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic all of the heroes in those movies have, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. Those story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.

If we focus on the real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Do something you love, but have been too afraid to try. With a great spirit and strong passion to share, the more others will want to share with you.

Hesitate To Shine No More

Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Don’t be afraid to share your ideas with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more people you expose this talent to, the more a ripple effect of popularity and charm with shine over you. You will become more known. But beware of the vanity, arrogant, boastful side effects that infect most individuals who catch the popularity bug. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.

Talk It Up

Make sure to keep talking. No, you don’t want to become a chatter bird, constantly rambling on and on to be friendly, while everyone else wants you to shut up. This is the type of talking that is comfortable and reassuring. Ensure that as the saying goes - if you are talking make sure you have something useful to say. At the end of the day, it is all about communication.

Try to talk to at least one person, whom you do not know, each day. After you’ve mastered that for a week, then try talking to two others unknown to you daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. Build this gradual climax towards talking more freely, understanding, and popularly chatting with everyone.

Do Something New

Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. It is often too easy to sit back in our comfort zone. We cling to our environment, our culture, our personal forms of entertainment; but trying something new, more than once a decade, is one of the best ways to gain popularity.

Keep in mind that you should not participate in anything solely because you want attention. Make sure that when you do try something new, it’s because you have an interest in trying it out. Its like ensuring you can swim before holding your breath under water.

Remember to be humble and grateful. This could be going to a movie, joining a pottery class, taking up a new sport, or doing a course to enhance either your business and or personal life. Make sure it’s around people who enjoy doing the things you haven’t tried, and build a bond with them (even if you’ll never, say, attend an Opera again). This will really help in skyrocketing your popularity.

Go With the Flow

Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Well, you shouldn’t have been embarrassed, because we all have gone through this. My talent show was ruined because I overthought it. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.

Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? The key to being popular is actually not trying to fit in with everyone, but being yourself, while at the same time embracing new ideas, cultures, races, styles, and entertainment. Try anything once, so long as it is within your boundaries, and if you don’t like it - don ‘t do it again, but at least you tried. The more you are exposed to, the more you understand or have empathy for. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.

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